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Discipline is the most reliable strategy in the face of adversity.
How Do You Show Up In Adversity?
Do you find yourself unable to relax if your surroundings aren't just how you want them? Perhaps you feel a certain level of anxiety when the house isn't perfectly clean, or the weather isn't a perfect 70 and sunny, or you refuse to go to a certain place because the environment isn't consistently how you want it. If reading this has you feeling like you might relate, stay with me! Typically, this is noted as a codependency on an external locus of control as a result of lacking an internal locus of control. This means a person is codependent on their environment to make them feel regulated (controlling people, places, or things) because they can not regulate themselves internally (mentally and emotionally). So it sounds like this: "I couldn't get my groceries today because the grocery store was too busy and it was so hot outside today, so I stayed home and scrolled social media instead." Or: "He kept interrupting me so I lost my cool and went off on him. I know I shouldn't have but I couldn't help it." Or maybe it even sounds like this: "Ah the weather was perfect today and I was so productive and in such a great mood." The goal is to be able to regulate yourself internally, regardless of any external factors, so that you're not easily sent into spiraling excuses of why your external factors are stopping you from living your best life. Reach out to The Wellness Armory if you're interested in learning more about the practice of self regulation. support@thewellnessarmory. org
Transitioning from military to civilian life can be both exciting and overwhelming. After years of service, structured routines, and a clear mission, many veterans find themselves asking a profound question: What's next? Discovering your purpose after service is a deeply personal journey-one that requires reflection, exploration, discipline, and patience. Understanding Purpose Beyond Service In the military, your role is clearly defined, and your purpose is often tied to the mission at hand. In civilian life, however, purpose can take on a much different shape. It may come through a new career, higher education, community involvement, or personal growth. For some, its about continuing to serve others in new ways, while for others, its about rediscovering passions that may have been set aside during their time in uniform. Steps to Finding Your Purpose Reflect on Your Values and Strengths- Consider what aspects of military service were most meaningful to you. Was it leadership, teamwork, problem-solving, or service to others? Identifying these core values can guide you toward meaningful civilian opportunities. Explore New Opportunities- Be open to trying new things, whether it's a different career path, volunteering, or engaging in hobbies that bring you fulfillment. Seek Support and Mentorship- Connecting with other veterans who have navigated similar transitions can provide insight and encouragement. Mentors and support networks can help you identify new pathways and provide practical advice. Embrace Growth and Adaptability- The civilian world operates differently from military life, and adapting to it takes time. Be patient with yourself, embrace new challenges, and recognize that growth often comes from stepping outside your comfort zone. The Importance of Purpose in Well-Being Finding purpose after military service is not just about a job or a title; it's about building a fulfilling life that aligns with your values and aspirations. A strong sense of purpose can enhance mental and emotional well-being, providing a sense of direction and fulfillment in this new chapter of life. You're Not Alone Remember, discovering your purpose is a journey, not a destination! Whether you're drawn to entrepreneurship, advocacy, education, or personal development, there are countless ways to continue making an impact. Take your time, seek support, and know that you have a wealth of experience and strength to offer the world. If you're looking for support in transitioning from active duty, or if you've transitioned from active duty in the last several years and still struggling to adapt, reach out to us at support@thewellnessarmory.org ! We can't wait to partner with you on your journey.
